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Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make
your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that
cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting
them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we
cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those
things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of
being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great
relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for
others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump
into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:
“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What
difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always control
everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people,
etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the
street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as
they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won
by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.”
Lao Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have
or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away
and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because
of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t
believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative
and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used
wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible
or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting
beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an
idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about those
many, many, many things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad
and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or
miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those
feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the
power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or
people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the
same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want
to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not
just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop
trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all
your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find
people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B.
Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those
around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.“Follow your
bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls”
Joseph Campbell
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you
don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little
by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when
you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you
created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall
into place.“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D.
Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no
longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses
we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we
get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9%
of the time are not even real.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past
looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but
you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you
have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past
that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop
deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all
life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future,
prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to
grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not
something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The
moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up
your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one
another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real
love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and
because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so
tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be
able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S
EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are
living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to
what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what
their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and
their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They
ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose
control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want,
what they need… and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one
life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let
other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
Here
is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your
life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things
that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead
of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free
and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will
give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace
change. Ready? Here we go: - See more at:
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your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that
cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting
them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we
cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those
things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
